50 Date Night Questions for Your Spouse
I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve heard that “you need to date your spouse.” And it’s true! I learned that the hard way recently.
It’s hard to break out of the everyday questions like “did you take the trash out” and get into the deep questions to learn what makes your spouse “tick.” And frankly, sometimes there are questions that are touchy subjects, and you don’t know why.
That’s why dating your spouse is so important. I learn new things about my husband every time I think of a new question to ask him. It brings us closer together: he’s more vulnerable with me, and I understand him better because of it.
Why is date night important for couples?
Date night is an important part of any relationship, regardless of whether you’re an introvert or extrovert. It’s a positive way to nurture your connection and strengthen your bond as a couple. It’s also just plain fun! So why not make date night a priority in your weekly routine?
Date night provides couples with uninterrupted quality time spent together. Whether it’s simply having dinner at home or heading out for a romantic evening, it allows you to switch off from the everyday hustle and bustle and refocus on each other. During this special time, you can reconnect with one another by having meaningful conversations about life and love.
Take advantage of the opportunity to get creative too! Take turns planning something unique that both of you will enjoy, from cooking classes to wine-tasting tours—the possibilities are endless.
Before you go jumping into the meaty questions to get to know your spouse better, you need to know that there are some ground rules. Will you be out on a date in a public place when you talk? Or are these things that are best discussed in private?
Our date night question ground rules:
- No asking questions during a fight.
- Leave all anger out of the conversations.
- Speak in private.
- No children around.
- No “heavy” questions after a fight.
- Respect the other person’s boundaries; if they don’t want to speak about a subject, then move on and don’t press the issue.
- Have fun! Remember that this is to get to know your spouse and grow closer to them, not to create anger and resentment.
What do you say when you feel like you know everything?
Here are a few questions that I found to be fun and not too deep for everyday conversation.
- What is your favorite food?
- What would you consider “comfort food?”
- What is your favorite dessert?
- What is your favorite kind of cake?
- What is your favorite kind of ice cream?
- If you could only eat one kind of food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
- What is your favorite color?
- Who is your favorite author?
- What kinds of gifts do you like?
- What is your favorite books of the Bible?
- What is your favorite Bible verse?
- What is your favorite song in church?
- What is your favorite song ever?
- What is your favorite type of music?
- What is your favorite holiday?
- What is your favorite holiday tradition?
- What is your favorite season?
- Who is your favorite relative?
- Who is your least favorite relative?
- What is your favorite memory from childhood?
- What do you look forward to the most as you get older?
- How much sleep do you need?
- What do you consider to be your best skills?
- How can that love be shown? (Not sure? Take the Love Languages Quiz.)
- What do you enjoy doing with me?
- How much time would be good for us to spend together each day?
- What is the funniest thing our child has done?
- What’s your funniest, embarrassing moment?
- Have you ever met a celebrity?
- What would be your ideal way to spend a normal evening?
- If you could go on vacation for one week anywhere in the world regardless of cost, where would it be?
- What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever seen one of your friends do?
- What’s your favorite sport?
- What is the sports team you hate the most?
- What’s your favorite team?
- What’s the funniest movie you’ve ever seen?
- What type of humor do you enjoy the most?
- What is your spouse’s favorite cologne or perfume?
- What’s your favorite animal?
- What is your least favorite animal?
- Are you a cat person or a dog person?
- What would be your prefect name for a pet?
- What’s your favorite TV show?
- Would you rather go to the city, mountains, lake, or ocean for a mini-vacation?
- Would you rather dress up or dress down?
- What would you do if you won the lottery?
- What is your favorite flower?
- What would your dream house look like?
- Would you rather live in the middle of the city, suburbs, or country?
- What’s your favorite guilty pleasure?
More Good Questions for Couples
Love is a mysterious force; it binds two people together and often means that they will remain with each other for life. But how well do you really know your partner? If you are looking to find out how well you and your partner really fit, these romantic questions may provide some insight!
These fun questions range from the go-to ‘What was love at first sight like?’ to deal-breakers such as ‘Do you consider yourself more of an optimist or realist?’. These conversations can help bring couples closer together by giving them an opportunity to learn more about each other’s thoughts and feelings. It can also help strengthen relationships by deepening trust and understanding between partners.
- What is the most romantic thing you’ve ever done for someone?
- What is the best piece of advice someone has ever given to you?
- If money were no object, what would be your dream date night?
- How do they like to be surprised by their loved one?
- What accomplishment are they most proud of in their life so far?
- When was your first kiss and who was it with?
- What was your first crush like?
- What was one moment this past week when you felt so lucky to be where you are?
- Do you consider yourself an optimist, a pessimist, or a realist? why?
- If you could change one thing about yourself, what would you pick?
- What is the very first thing you think about when you wake up?
- What is the last thing you think about before going to sleep?
- What is your favorite physical feature?
- What do you think my best personality trait is?
- If you could be any cartoon character, who would you be? Why?
No matter how long a couple has been together, there is always something new to discover about one another.
I know there are a million more questions to ask your spouse, but I like to keep things light! Getting too deep can sometimes illicit heavy responses or bring up unhappy memories.
Keep things light and remember that the goal here is to learn more about your spouse and grow closer as a couple. Dating your spouse is a great way to stay strong in your marriage.