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How I Stopped My Husband’s Spending

October 21 by Caroline 2 Comments This post may contain affiliate links.

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How I Stopped My Husband’s SpendingHow I Stopped My Husband's Spending

My husband had a real spending problem. The second he came into some money, he would spend it as quickly as he could. I couldn’t quite understand this, as a saver; I store money away like a squirrel stores nuts for the winter.

It all came to a head when my husband and I were arguing about where all the money went. He said to me “I just got paid yesterday, why don’t I have money to spend?!” I had my list of bills and expenses that were set to come out of the paycheck for the week and he had no idea.

He would go through a week spending $100 on junk when he was at work or on the weekend. That might not seem like much, but at that time, we were only making $17,000 a year for a family of four. When you figure $100 a week for a year means $5,200, that frivolous spending was eating up around 30% of our annual income. 

How did I get him to stop spending 30% of our income to having a spending budget of $20 a week? It wasn’t easy, that’s for sure! But I’m glad to say that he got on board with our savings plan and has stopped the uncontrollable spending.

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Here’s how I stopped my husband’s spending.

Got him on board

The first step was getting him to realize that I’m not his enemy. I’m not doing this to control him or to be overbearing. I’m doing this so that we as a family can stay afloat.

Once he realized that I wasn’t telling him to stop spending because I was being a buzzkill, he was much more onboard.

Keep him involved

Letting him know what we had to spend each week on weekly expenses (gas, groceries…) and then showing him the budget with his old spending versus his new spending really seemed to hit home for him.

Eating away at our tiny little saving account each week or getting hit with overdraft fees because we couldn’t keep up with bills really showed him how unsustainable that type of spending was. This helped solidify him being on board the budget boat.

Cut up his card

Getting rid of the disconnect between an amount of money and a piece of plastic really helped. Money means nothing when you’re just looking at a piece of plastic.

It was too easy for him to spend a lot of money without giving it a second thought. So out went the card! He has a card with his name now, but I keep it in my wallet or hidden in case he needs it.

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He got a $20 bill each week to spend on whatever he wanted. But if he spent it all on Monday, it was gone for the whole week and he wasn’t going to get any more.

This gave him the freedom to spend the money how he wanted to, but the accountability to know that once it’s gone, that’s it. This was a hard transition for a few weeks, but eventually, he figured it out!

Help him along

I had some work to do, too. I had to stop policing him, waiting for him to mess up. This was only detrimental to our relationship. It was my job to help set him up for success.

In this case, it meant making sure that I had dinner ready for him every day before he went to work. Having his food prepped and ready for him was a big help. That way there was no need to get a ready-to-eat alternative from work when there were dinner and snacks all set for him in his cooler.

Now, what worked for us might not work for you. There’s usually no cookie-cutter answer. But these steps changed my life. We were drowning, and my husband needed some tough love to get him to snap out of his alternate reality and into the real world. 3 years later, and we’re going strong in his spending and out saving. I don’t know if it’ll ever be second nature for him, but I stopped my husband’s spending. And it’s changed our lives.

What have you done to control spending in your house?

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  1. Miesha says

    November 4 at 10:39 AM

    Thank you so much for this post. I’m so glad I am not the only one who had this problem. I had to start giving my husband money each week as well. He does a lot better now and I give him enough for 2 weeks like a payday. Once he realized he was spending way too much and got onboard, life got so much easier!

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  2. Maggie says

    January 16 at 11:24 AM

    In our household, I am the spender, but I am also the budgeter, planner, and accountant. My fiancé judges me when I buy anything, even if it’s something for him because he won’t even spend money on things he needs. His saving is the reason we bought a house at 19 and 20 but my credit was a big part of it too. Because I’m more of a consumer I have had loans and a credit card to establish the credit we needed to buy a house. He paid cash for everything including school so he has zero credit. Though he is better at saving, I’m the one who does all our family purchasing and am just as responsible financially. Even though I am in charge of our finances, I still stress buy. But I am working on only buying things we need when I feel the need to stress buy. It would be easier if I wasn’t judged for spending any amount of money. Basically I’m looking for how to not be a spender.

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